Pre-Marital Counselling & Marriage Counsellor in Chandigarh, Panchkula
“Being Forewarned Is Being Forearmed.”
Pre-marital counseling, just like marital counseling, is gaining popularity due to the increasingly complex nature of marital relationships. A tendency to seek pre-marital counseling is a pointer to the rising awareness among today's youth about better preparedness for a marital relationship. The concept may seem outlandish to many, but as a matter of fact, relationship counselling & pre-marital counseling actually reduces the need for marital counseling for obvious reasons. It is quite akin to vaccination in that you are aware of the likely issues and are ready to handle them effectively.
Once the initial honeymoon period is over, the ground realties of a marriage can be a rude reality check. In most cases, the spouses just do not know how to cope with the unexpected situation. In most cases, minor quarrels over trivial things can create differences, which may escalate into major issues. Relationship counseling & Pre-marital counseling, which involves detailed interviews with prospective partners individually and jointly, can reveal a wealth of information about their personality traits, likes, dislikes, inner complexes, role expectations and insecurities. This treasure-trove, if utilized properly, can yield significant pointers to the to-be-married couple regarding each other’s strengths, weaknesses, expectations and personality traits. All this can be immensely useful in ensuring better acceptance of each other and predicting the areas of potential conflict later, so that the couple is equipped to handle them effectively. For instance, one or both spouses in a love marriage may dream of a typical happily-ever-after, rosy marital life sans any day-to-day pinpricks. The two are in for a rude shock as their unrealistic expectations are seldom going to materialize.
It is absolutely essential to know about some important aspects of one's spouse before committing oneself to a lifelong relationship. Some major such areas are
|- Religion||- Lifestyle||- Sex||- Money|
|- Children||- Career||- Life goals||- Recreation|
Prioritizing these issues helps a partner know their relative importance for the other one. It also helps one acknowledge one's weaknesses and helps the other become more accepting and supportive.
By exploring these issues threadbare, the couple gets a better understanding of each other's behaviour and also where the other stands. For instance, an appreciation for the spouse's religion and lifestyle smoothens the transition to marriage. Sex and children are crucial subjects for family planning and keeping intimacy alive. A couple should discuss how long they would like to wait before having a child, contraceptive options and the plan for the lifestyle change. It is equally important to discuss how one behaves with the other in private, with family and in public.
Broadly, Pre-Marital Counselling covers the following areas:
Psychometric assessments are used besides regular counselling to gain an impartial understanding of both partners' personalities.
Interestingly, marriage could overnight “magnify” both strengths and weaknesses of the respective partners. Thus we aim to give the couple a complete understanding of their personality-fit, their mutual compatibility, potential marital challenges and how to deal with such situations. This understanding, coupled with enhanced communication and coping skills serves to prevent and reduce conflicts.
The thrill of an impending marriage makes us see it through rose-tinted glasses. This may add to one’s anxiety in case the expectations are not fulfilled. Contrarily, increased anxiety may cause a negativistic view of marriage. Both cases focus on and require a realistic appraisal of marriage with its added fulfillment and responsibilities.
A marriage is positively going to change one’s life for good. For girls, the change can be challenging because they need to adjust themselves to a new household, a new family and a new partner. All this can create a lot of stress. Through pre-marital counseling, we help the couple understand the sea-change marriage brings in. The couple is empowered to deal with impending changes in environment and lifestyle, which leads to better coping and a healthier relationship.